Relationships Take Work

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February means candy hearts and Cupid’s arrows, but what if your sweetheart is driving you crazy? Whether you’re single, dating or promising forever, all relationships take work. Here are some tips on being a better communicator when things get complicated.

First, understand that sharing your thoughts and feelings is not only beneficial for your mental health, but also a way to engage in healthy problem solving with your spouse or significant other.

Talk about the tough stuff – at an appropriate time. Decide together when it’s a good time to discuss an important topic. Prepare your thoughts so you can keep the conversation on track.

Listen to both sides. Don’t raise your voice when a disagreement occurs, and make a point to understand where your partner might be coming from.

Talk about how you feel, without placing blame. Your partner is less likely to react defensively if you share your feelings, rather than accuse them of something.

At the end of the day, learn to appreciate your differences – even if it’s in your communication styles.

Valentine’s Day or any day, call the behavioral health number on the back of your insurance card for support when times get tough. For more tips, visit to access a library of resources on relationships and other behavioral health tools. 

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